No, you don’t give a damn about peace (how being the bigger person sucks)
You know someone being mistreated and even straight-up abused. One day, the victim decides to fight back, demanding the wrongdoer to be punished, demanding everyone to acknowledge the wrongdoing.
And you feel you do the right thing….. by accosting the victim.
You do so because you feel they are disturbing the peace by not forgiving the wrongdoer and moving on. You think they are being childish by not the bigger person.
Which is reasonable stance…. if you are a troglodyte.
They are not disturbing the peace, they simply call out the lack of it. But, do you know who disturb the peace? The people who abuse them! They are the ones who started the conflicts by mistreating and abusing others.
How you tell the victim to be the bigger person is also very telling.
You argue it can help them overcoming the trauma and not letting themself burdened by the past. But, how does that make work?
How can the victim move on with their life when the abuser — who feels emboldened for not being held accountable — keeps shoving them to the ground and stomping on their face?
This shows how you don’t actually care about keeping peace. If you do care, you would have lambasted the wrongdoers instead of ones who react accordingly to the wrongdoings. You would have ensured the wrongdoers suffer consequences, you would helped the victims overcoming their traumas.
If you do care, you would have preferred the imperfect yet genuine peace instead of the pristine-looking yet fake one. You hate the victims because they have the gall to break the illusion.
Or maybe, you genuinely don’t see anything wrong about the mistreatment and abuse; not only you see them as normal, you believe they give us thicker skins… even though trauma actually makes us too sensitive, the exact opposite of thick-skinned.
Or maybe, you are one of those weirdos who are too obsessed with forgiveness, believing you can forgive on other people’s behalf, believing all consequences are an unfair, petty and childish vengeance against the wrongdoers.
Or maybe, you are a chronic victim blamer. You believe the victims are the ones asking for it. You refuse to believe that the abusers are unprovoked and they love inflicting pain onto their fellow human beings.
Or maybe, going back to the “bigger person” argument, you don’t have any ill intent. You sincerely believe being the bigger persons is good for the victims, as it helps them to move on with their lives (assuming the wrongdoers stop trampling on them). But, by not punishing the wrongdoers, you are definitely brain-dead enough to be complicit of their behaviours.
Whatever the reasons, it is clear you never care about peace in the first place. If you do, you would have condemned those who started the fire and commended ones who try to put it out.
You would never coddle the former and condemn the latter.
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