When they leave out some details

The Stammering Dunce
4 min readJul 31, 2024

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As stated in my previous blogposts, I consume most of my reddit stories through Smosh videos and occasionally through “random” facebook pages.

The more I encounter reddit stories, the more I see recurring themes: bad behaviours persist because people have families and friends as enablers…. and deceitful OPs who intentionally leave out crucial details. The ones I found through Smosh videos tend to get called out.

Some stories — like the one about husband forbidding his family to attend family event or the one about a wedding singing performance — are not even subtle with their deception; it doesn’t take half a brain to realise the OPs leave out something.

While others — like the food scraps story or ex-husband’s wedding one (the latter is exposed in the comment section) — aren’t as obvious with their deceits, the OPs are still unsavoury enough to get called assholes.

In the burned wagyu steak story, there are no evidences of the OP leaving out the details. But, Shayne (the main host of Smosh reddit videos, in case you didn’t know) has a suspicion that the OP does leave out some or, at least, exaggerating certain facts (even though many Smosh viewers think he and his co-hosts are being unfair to the OP and I personally don’t know what to think about this).

The OPs of the the hiking and and unrequited love stories already sound mentally unhinged. But, Shayne still suspects they are understating their own behaviours; he believes they are far worse than they depict themselves to be.

The ones I found on Facebook, however, are something else. Specifically two stories about mentally unstable family members, which cause massive headaches to the rest of their respective families. You can read the story here and here. You have to read both of them first before you continue.

While some commenters on Facebook and reddit criticise OPs, many also side with them.

And it bothers me that many people don’t see something’s missing.

While I do agree you have the right to be exhausted, you are not obligated to “fix” “broken people” and you are definitely not obligated to forgive their behaviours, it should concern you when your loved ones — your so-called loved ones — change for the worse seemingly out of nowhere; it is obvious something happened to them.

But, the OPs have zero concern about that. In fact, the details they provide make them giant assholes.

In the first story, the OP loves to brag about how much a golden child she is. Not only she is an unlikeable and conceited bitch, that fact reveals three implications:

1. The OP has always been a golden child since the very beginning and her sister has always been neglected, resulting in the latter’s unsavoury behaviours;

2. Something unknown happened to the sister who, for some reasons, kept it to herself. But, instead of trying to figure out what happened to her, the parents quickly labeled her as innately demonic and the OP as innately angelic.

3. Similar to number one. The parents knew something — other than neglect — happened to her and, because she is not the golden child, they refused to support her.

Unless you believe nature will always trump nurture, I am confident you agree those insinuations are reasonable. Whatever the full story, the fact that she proudly self-identifies as the golden child means she only cares about putting herself on a higher pedestal.

In fact, considering that obsession of hers, I would not be surprised if she framed her sister for the bad things she did. A baseless accusation. But, can you blame me for that?

One reddit commenter also pointed out the sister has become a better person after she left the house, insinuating the household is the root of the problem. Yes, it is a circumstantial evidence. But, again, can you blame us?

And the OP of the other story isn’t any better.

His daughter is so promiscuous, she ends up with the wrong man and becomes a victim of revenge porn herself. She seems unbothered and that’s definitely not a normal response (but then, I don’t personally know anyone who is a victim of such thing). But, the OP — her own goddamn father — is more concerned about the legal fees than he is by the fact that she is a victim of a sexual crime.

His daughter also said he stopped loving her when she turned fifteen. But, that’s not the red flag.

The red flag is he never refuted the accusation. He did not complain about being slandered, he complained about being made to feel guilty.

It may just be a case of bad writing. But, even if that’s the case, I don’t know why some people aren’t alarmed by the word choices.

With those two stories, I don’t know if it is a case of mental health stigmatisation, inability to read between the lines or both.

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The Stammering Dunce
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